My Optimal Life Design

As I get older, I have profound appreciation for life and the choices it offers. I can choose to be the happiest person on this earth or the saddest victim around. It’s all up to me to choose thoughts and choose what matters most for my happiness.

Many of our worries are byproduct of thoughts that we harbor and power our mind has to zoom in on these thoughts to magnify them. That’s both good and bad as wrong thoughts can lead you to the abyss of despair and good thoughts can take heights you’ve never witnessed before.

Having said that, I still think that my life is nothing more than my desire to choose. It’s that simple.

It’s my desire to choose what I want, who I want around, and how I want to project myself in front of others.

Success has many facets and like good and bad cholesterol, my desire to accumulate success just in the form of materialistic view point and not focusing on my success to weigh in what matters most to live an optimal life can lead me to the same abyss of despair that I find so many who can’t find way to pull themselves out of this deep dark valley.

A path to minimalism

This may astound you but most of our worries lie around fake phobias that we have developed for the physical world that surrounds us. We worry about making house payment, or making car payment, or losing a job we hate. These are subtly interrelated cousins who feed each other to feed our myopic view of the world.

We think of our problems as a permanent state of being. As these worry cousins take chances to stab any seeds of happiness that we try to sow in our lives.

Most worries are just that. They are nothing but state of mind we create between our two ears. And the good news is that we can choose to find freedom from the slavery of these worry cousins.

For me, a slowly and well thought transition to minimalism is the surefire way to an optimal life design I want.

As I get older, I want to become mindful of what I own, what I eat, what I think and whom I surround with. I no more relish of my excitement for a big win in any facet of my life nor I regret not having all of those things that world considers yardstick of success.

I will strive every awake moment to find happiness and only happiness that comes from within. For that, I won’t need many things that are not part of my optimal life design.

  • I don’t need approval from others in the way I live my life. Approval seeking is not part of my optimal life design and never will be.
  • I don’t need any debt. I don’t want debt to influence my thoughts and squash the bug that I have to live life to the fullest.
  • I don’t need TV and other forms of entertainment as they espouse consumerism.
  • I don’t need any form of possessions that serves no purpose to enhance my inner happiness.

I don’t want these things so that I can maximize my choices to live a happy life.

  • I want to seek more of life-energy to do things I love to do.
  • I want to read more and write more.
  • I want to make difference in this world in whichever capacity I can as life has been generous to me.
  • I want to measure every aspect of my life with lenses of minimalism so that I can measure my success not just in terms of material wealth but more in terms of  inner happiness.

Have you thought about your optimal life design yet?

Price of Freedom

Editor’s Note: This article was originally written on March 29th, 2008. I am inspired to re-publish it after reading an inspirational article on Financial Samurai to honor our heroes.

Last week, a friend of mine, Susan Rogers, sent me a video clip that, upon watching brought tears from my eyes. I, for once, realized how to view life in its noble perspective. In the midst of thoughts surrounding goals that are the self full filling, I had lost my focus to ponder on those who allowed me to have life, liberty and pursuit of happiness.

Those tears were for neglecting to care for giants among us, for those who sacrificed all they had for others, for those who fought for the old glory, for those with their silent act of patriotism and deep sense of service for the country, for those souls of inspirations that allowed me to have the life that I love, dreams that I dream and freedom that I cherish.

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How to Develop Laser Sharp Focus

That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains. — Steve Jobs

Everything in your life is influenced by the rule of 80/20.

Enter the world of hacks and anti-hacks alike — with due respect to the arguments from either side of the fence — I’ve stumbled upon an axiom that can help you not only to de-clutter your thoughts, but also to develop laser sharp focus for what matters most in your life.

We focus 80% of our time on 20% of meager matters in our lives that — if happens — will only have 5% influence on our happiness and success.

Have you heard someone say, “I’d love to do that but ____”? We all have. It’s a sign of a mind cluttered with tasks that are least important to our end goal — our happiness.

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