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While driving this morning, I heard that debt is becoming an increasingly dominant factor in our lives leading to all sorts of health problems including high blood pressure, stress and heart attack. If you add the imminent threat of recession to this news, a rather worrisome depiction of our society emerges.
It’s an astounding revelation that spooked me to think that debt has power to take our lives yet we do so many things that attract this dreaded daemon to destroy our dreams and to throw us in the state of despair without a hope to an ultimate salvation, a nirvana.
How can one achieve the ultimate salvation? Few thoughts sparkled my mind.
- To be happy, I have to abstain from the habit of spending for the hedonic bliss, a pleasure that is external and as treacherous as a mirage in the desert. Happiness comes from within with simple and life forming pleasures by the act of utmost kindness and generosity. Happiness is not a thought of consumption, it is a thought of giving, a thought of charity.
- I need not obsess over HOW to please my desire to impress others, only a clear conception of WHAT it is I want to achieve and WHY I want to achieve it to please my inner-self.
- I need to define values in my life so that every time when I spend money, I need to ask myself this question, “Is this spending congruent with my values?”
More tips to recover from the consumption addiction.
Debt in a simplistic view, spending beyond what we can purchase with our cash. It’s a substance abuse in the form of an instant gratification that has no consciousness. It’s a mind fogged with thoughts of possessing clutter that drains our life energy.
I’ve had a humble beginning with limited capital to launch a new life thousands of miles away in a nation that still promises hope to anyone who can dare to dream. I’m often asked as to how I came up with capital to embark my journey as an entrepreneur. It’s all rooted in the power of simplicity - to define what is important in life, to squash the bug of external pleasures and to focus on every action with abundance of consciousness. Life of simplicity not only is a pathway to our purpose but also a nirvana from the debt ridden life.
- Live within your means.
I have to know what I can afford before I contemplate thoughts of consumption. The mantra of living within means simply teaches me to wait until I have money to buy what I need. It teaches me the core concept of conscious living by prioritizing what is essential and non-essential in my life. It teaches me value to anticipate my needs and patience to save enough cash to purchase my essential needs. It prepares me to squash the bug of instant gratification by avoiding any purchases by using the plastic cards.
- Use plastic cards as a life line.
Credit cards can be devastating for their intended function of building good credit. I keep few credit cards with me only as a last resort to pay when cash is not accepted. Wise use of credit card usage and timely payment can build a great credit score but unwise abuse can bring daunting clouds of misery.
- Anticipate your needs.
Clutter that we accumulate is a byproduct of magic of advertising that whets our appetite for the stuff we don’t need. When we don’t know what is essential for us, we squander our hard earning on clutter that attracts habit of numb spending without consciousness. When I walk into a store, I know what I need. I tend to walk away after purchasing my essential and not paying attention to those items on sale that I do not need.
- Use it till you lose it.
How many pair of shoes do we need? How many wrist watches we need? How many pair of sunglasses we need? Most things that we throw away have a great deal of shelf life left yet we convince ourselves that those things are out of vogue. We strive to collect clutter to simply impress others. I can save a great deal of my money by applying a mantra of buying something only after it becomes useless. Even useless things can be used creatively to save even more by their creative usage.
- Become a prudent buyer.
If I anticipate my needs, I allow myself to clearly define what I need and then use the power of internet to research the best buy. By researching price gaps between new and used, I can make conscious decision to purchase a new or slightly used item to save a great deal of my hard earned money.
Final Thoughts
We do not need a lot to live a life of abundance other than a clear, conscious awareness of what is essential for our happiness. When we squander our hard earned money on things that we don’t need or, even worst, when we spend money that we have no means to repay in the near future, we put ourselves at the cross road leading to unending misery. When we spend money with numbness, we trade our life energy to purchase things that enslave our happiness.
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Shilpan,
In the world of constant Ads thrown at your face anywhere you go, it is amazing how we end-up purchasing items that we really don’t need.
I have cancelled all my credit cards except one and I pay the total amount due every single month without failure. Credit card companies will rip you off in every possible ways. i.e late fees, higher interest rates etc.,
Thanks for the great tips.
Ramesh.
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Hi Shilpan,
Such great advice, but for some it may be too late. In this economy where people are losing their homes, jobs and cars, they may be thinking back and saying woulda, coulda, shoulda.
We are a society of individuals who are influenced by the advertising for the latest gadgets and gizmos. The advertisers know how to play on people’s weaknesses and don’t hesitate to do so, all in the name of profit.
We probably all have too much stuff. But, can a woman really have too many shoes?
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Very timely post
You offer some really useful tips Shilpan. At the end of the days, how small it may be, these things matter.
Shamelle
Shilpan,
I think debt is a endemic in our society - just to buy a place to live we have to get into huge debt, and we are encouraged constantly to take out loans, apply for more credit cards, etc. In the middle ages, usury was a sin. Aristotle said that charging interest on loan was ‘contrary to the nature of things.’ Look at us now!
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Great advice Shilpan, thank you! Abundance is definitely something in the soul, rather than material possessions.
And consumption is the disease of our time.
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Shilpan, I like how you call it “consumption addiction.” I think that’s a very accurate term. Consumption is really an addiction, a disease. Sometimes I think people like the buying of stuff more than the stuff itself. Like all addictions, this doesn’t have a happy ending unless you break the cycle.
BTW, you always have such terrific photos! I checked out onePhoto but there was a slight language barrier.
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You bring up an excellent point regarding running purchasing decisions by our values first. I find our values are excellent guideposts for all decision-making. Following the guidance of advertising and ignoring our values is actually the opposite of abundance.
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Overspending (going beyond our means) enslaves us and consumes our every being. Being wise by laying out our priorities, not caring what others think and thinking about the long term consequences of what we are thinking about buying will go a very long way. If you’re tempted to overspend, just ask yourself, “Is it better to buy this or to have money in the bank?”
Remembering that often the need to overspend comes from some deep hurt within is something to keep in mind. Going deep to understand why we do it is crucial.
Simplifying isn’t the ultimate salvation (only God can provide that), but it certainly does free us immensely!
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I always learn something new when I visit this site. Thanks again for your personal views. I think I’m going to need to read more about the topic though.
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Wonderful! I liked this line, “squash the bug of instant gratification.” This was a great read, full of wisdom and rational. I will subscribe.
Oh, and the picture you used for this entry is nothing short of remarkable.
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Very good points! I’d also add that shopping at garage sales or Freecycle is another great way to save money in the long run.
Plus, it’s quite relaxing as well.
The husband and I often have garage sale dates.
Enjoy, Barbara
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I think this is one of your best posts Shilpan. There’s a credit card commercial here in Panama where a young couple isn’t going away on a trip because they don’t have the money. Then they visualize themselves on a trip when they’re really old and so they decide not to wait and they purchase the airline ticket with a credit card. The message is: do it now, if you don ‘t have the money that’s OK, you have a credit card. Yes, of course, then they end up in debt. I think that type of commercial should not be allowed.
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Here’s one that I can relate to this post, using the example of dressing up.
http://winningeveryone.com/winning-people/winning-people-by-dressing-smart/
Like what you have said here in the opening paragraph with a point that went “I need not obsess over HOW to please my desire to impress others”, and the one about “Use it till you loose it”, I too have a way of going about to get my new set of clothes on a budget that still make us look cool.
One of the stuff I had written there was about buying within my own means, like my pair of good shoes, though costs $140, it lasted me for nearly almost a year and it’s still in good condition! A little polish now and then will still make it look tip top and ready for the day.
And I definitely agree that we should be prudent buyers too! Know what we are paying for and personally being able to account for the purchase make us wiser in our finances.
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@Ramesh -
I normally anticipate my needs and make a list of things to purchase before I enter a shop. With that thinking, I tend to ignore things on sale.
@Barbara-
It’s true that advertisers spend lots of money to figure out how to manipulate our emotions. I intend to shed light on our inner consciousness that shall always triumph over these marketing tactics.
@Shamelle -
Small things can do wonder if we develop consciousness to focus on them.
@Micheal -
I like your statement,”I think debt is a endemic in our society.” Well said.
@David -
Great to see your comment. Abundance is in the simplicity, not in the clutter of possessions.
@Hunter -
Consumption is an addiction largely attributed to our moral devastation. Thanks for the compliments on the picture.
@Tom -
As you’ve articulated, our spending habits normally follow the values or lack of that we try to live for. It is therefore important to understand what we need in our life for happiness.
This is very well written.
It is very true that we need to learn to stop equating “life of abundance” with material possessions. Accumulating stuff is not just unnecessary for our happiness - it creates CLUTTER that may very well negatively affect our mood.
Thank you so much for this post.
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Shilpan,
Well-written again. Obsessive spending is a sign of low self-esteem. If we look inside ourselves, we understand that the wealth of the universe is within us and that brings satisfaction.
Thanks
Ayesha
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I think the key to living the recession-proof life you’re talking about here is being confident yet humble. You have to be confident enough to feel good walking around in “use it till you lose it” clothes (which isn’t that hard if you buy good pieces) instead of the latest thing. However, you also have to be humble enough to know that you probably don’t deserve the best of everything. It’s a hard balance, but the rewards you mention are totally worth the attempt.
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It makes sense to step outside the life you have been leading in order to raise your awareness about your thought and action patterns. To evolve to understand why you do things is a great way to gain insight into your beliefs. Many people act and react mechanically without truly being aware. The more aware you become, the more your perception and choices will change.
It feels good to read this during a time where I have decided to take real control of my money and in turn the happy factor of my life. A bit of wisdom goes a long way where finances are concerned and to be honest - I dread the stress that comes with worrying about it all.
I am blessed and ok with what I have. There is a time for everything anyway. Right now’s that time to buckle down
(Said while 4.35 a gallon of gas sits on display at my local gas pump)
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@Jennifer -
I like what you’ve shared, “Overspending (going beyond our means) enslaves us and consumes our every being.” - Fabulous.
@Nathalie -
Thanks for the kind words.
@Mare -
You are so right about advertisers luring people who cannot afford the trip only to find themselves into deeper hole once the fun is over. It is insane.
@Daniel -
I’m ceaselessly amazed at your wisdom at such a young age. You’re definitely proving your acumen with you words. Thank you.
Shilpan,
Wonderful insight and good suggestions. The temptation to keep up with our neighbors causes havok in our lives and our bank accounts. It is so true that money and stuff does not guarantee happiness.
I worry though, that for many in our country, just keeping gas in the car and food on the table (the necessities) will lead to debt. We all need to do our part to remain solvent, but our government also needs to step up to the plate or we are headed for an economic disaster that all of the consumer prudence in the world won’t fix.
@Vered -
Impulsive buying is a mental disorder. It gives a brief, false happiness that goes away quickly only to throw us back into the darkness.
@Ayesha -
Well said. We have everything to enjoy our life yet we still have this unending desire to find next thing to enjoy. It never ends as it is fake.
@Sara -
I agree with you. The secret is in holding high self-esteem. It is in our ability to please ourselves rather than others. Well said.
@Liara -
You are fabulous as always. I like this statement, “To evolve to understand why you do things is a great way to gain insight into your beliefs.”
@JEMi -
Money always helps but trying to use money as a means to the true happiness is foolishness. The more we understand the power of lack of money, more wise we become.
Shilpan
I don’t own a single credit card. That’s because I’m still paying for the ones that I used five years ago.
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@Lori -
I agree with you wholeheartedly about the gas price and its toll on our economy. My intention is to create awareness so that we can be conscious about where we are spending our money as time goes tough and creative marketing media will get even more desperate to lure us into spending our last dollar.
@Chris -
What you’ve done is the smartest thing one can do once bitten by this obnoxious way of spending money that we don’t have.
Shilpan
As always good info. It occurred to me that with the rising cost of living and being made to pay more for things that we are learning to live simplier and more consciously. Because we have to pay more, we think more, we plan our trips, we plan our purchases, we plan what we pack for vacation. In a crazy way, a recession helps us to see that we don’t need the things we think we did (big house/big car)….we are learning to live on less because we have to, which is probably the way it should be anyway.
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Shilpan,
Excellent article, I may print this one and give it to my family to read. We made a committment as a family three years ago to live a simpler life.
Goals of zero credit card debt, less spending on things we don’t need, reducing clutter in our lives and in our home. Amazingly, there is still a long way to go. It is a continuing process in a society that has infiltrated every area of our thinking. Especially when you are raising children in the suburbs of a big city. The Newest and latest of what keeps the popular kids popular..yikes! *shudder*. Teaching our kids that personality and internal values are more important than things took a bit of convincing!
Again, it comes back to teaching values and being strong against what is a raging tide.
Thank you for a great affirmation today.
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Great article Shilpan (and a lovely layout of the blog too).
The one point that got me the most was becoming a prudent buyer. I think I’m more of an overspender when it comes to my business. When I first started, I bought so many things and was in great trouble. I learned it the hard way. Now, I just take the ads that interest me and put them on a file to review after a week. It reduces the impulse spending. I too keep a list of things I need to check against the cool ads I come across everyday
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@Natural-
Yes, bad times always make us humble and more appreciative of the things we have in life rather than to worry about the things we don’t.
@Wendi -
Thanks for the kind comments. Life can be lived with simplicity - no debt, mindful spending and thoughtful actions can lead to a happy, fulfilling life.
@Gayathri-
Thanks for the kind words. I’d be glad to see your comment in the future posts.
@Rigdha -
It’s your money. You should always be prudent buyer as there are many scam artists out there hungry to snatch every dollar from you.
Shilpan
It can be helpful for human beings to remind themselves that their journey in this world is one of impermanence. The implications are many. What you sense or discern at different phases of your life reflects your level of self-awareness.
Shilpan, I think the comment about self esteem is at the core of all this. When you come to understand that the most important person we need to impress is ourselves, life becomes more focused. It’s all a habit we develop. I remember when my son was a child he would leave his new jacket at school. He wanted to make his new jeans look old and worn. I promptly took him to Good Will or Salvation Army stores and let him pick any jacket or jeans he wanted. We both came out satisfied. He is grown and now takes his son to used clothing stores. I’m really proud of that.
Great post, Shilpan. What I was told growing up was great: steer clear of credit cards. It’s what I tell my son, too. Well, not really. Three year olds never listen to financial advice.
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Good points about the debt. The other side of the story is that debt thing started to significantly influence the economy, the government. Seen what happened in real estate market in the US? Many say it is due to debts that folks are not able to pay.
My point is that the government must act too. Like not allowing banks lend money people cannot return. No?
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Hi Shilpan,
Your statement on; “Become a prudent buyer” is indeed excellent in reflecting, important of putting a good stop loss on our spending. If there is a way for the mass to learn the art of maximizing your saving, your article on, “How to Live a Recession-Proof Life ” will prove vital.
I look forward for more writings.
Tesla L.
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Great post Shilpan. And many great comments. I think a basic understanding of credit and debt should be taught in schools. We are barraged with messages of instant gratification, leading to dissatisfaction and potentially obsessive spending.
I use a credit card regularly as it gives me records but always pay it off. Its pre-budgeted. If you can’t control this you should put it away. Or cut it up. And you have to recognize that the purchases on the credit card are a future obligation so immediately places you a month behind. You can use the lag to your advantage but it also reduces your flexibility. So theres a good median point there. DON’T use it for everything, like food.
This also touches on a key aspect of debt. It obliges one to live in the past. Live today to cover the spending of the past. Much harder to live in the moment then. It is the enslaver.
In prior times, money lenders had a very bad rap. Now we celebrate building our credit.
I’ve also seen how easy it is to fall off the wagon. Years of careful spending, then one bit of stupidity. Real estate is a good example. I’ve seen people buy a house after looking at it for 15 minutes. They spend more time buying groceries.
But I’ve also seen people fall on difficult times. With credit available, they live on debt “for a short time” and find themselves in a mess. Its a difficult quandary - you have to eat.
Good advice on spending too. I like to buy classic fashions so I look good but don’t fall “out”. I do my research. Look for quality over quantity.
Its notable how little most of us understand money. How many of us read labels on what we buy? We may be against this or that, then support it with our money by buying their products and not realizing it. Products are available precisely because there is demand. Indeed, property crime exists because there is a market. If you look at the way money actually works, you may rather be appalled. Did you know that when you take out a mortgage, that the bank creates the money out of thin air with your signature? Money is printed and interest rates are set by a private corporation in most countries of the world. The dollar is a fiat currency who’s value is based solely on perception. Like the stock market. That makes debt even more appalling. An obligation to a game.
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@Susan,
Self esteem comes from putting high value on our own worth as you’ve suggested. Without high self-esteem we get into an endless, gutless loop of pleasing others.
@Joel -
You are right. With credit cards, we tend to buy with the mind set of IOU. Buying possessions with borrowed money is the worst mistake we can make.
@Tesla -
Thanks for the kind comment.
@Davidya -
As always, you’ve wisdom that I value. Thank you.
Shilpan
Shilpan,
Very insightful article. As you’ve mentioned, everything is rooted in consciousness. If we are mindful about how we spend our time and money, we can achieve greater abundance and happiness with less possessions. I try to remind myself that “less is more.” and contentment in what I have is the key to happiness. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful article.
Jay
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