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Nothing can seem foul to those who win.
-William Shakespeare (1564-1616) British poet and playwright.

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I’ve known many people from all walks of life. They have different ethnicity, religion and, of course, different culture. Nonetheless, in a simplistic view, I’d like to classify people into two groups: Whiners and Winners.

Whiners are those who are enamored with jealousy of achievers, dream fake dreams, who are hooked up on “cable-drug,” and are envy of celebrities, who are the slave to emotional instant gratification. They find everyone but themselves responsible for where they are in life.

Winners are those who understand their inner self. They’ve found purpose in their life, and they sacrifice the self fulfilling pleasures of the moment in search of eternal happiness that radiates their lives and others whom they care for.

Obviously, I like to surround myself with winners. I know that my destiny is being shaped by the company I keep. With the focus on being associated with the winners, I’ve started watching people when I come in their contact and infer if the person is a whiner or a winner.

I’ve drawn five distinct ways to identify a whiner to avoid and winner to embrace. After all, We become what our thoughts inspire us to and with a company of a whiner, success remains a mirage.

1. A victim of circumstances OR a victor of circumstances.

Whiners blame their lack of achievement in life to their circumstances. “I am not fortunate to have success,” or “I always get bad luck,” or “Money makes money” are few rumblings that you hear from a whiner. Their mind is cluttered with thoughts of despair. They’ve lost the battle in their own mind before it began in reality. I swiftly move on to salvage my sacred mind when I hear these words. Winners are victors in their own mind regardless of circumstances. It’s their will power to achieve and immense focus on their desire that overcomes any challenges they face to achieve goals.

2. They never act to avoid failure OR they never fail to avoid success.

When I began my career, I used to get exuberant while toying with new business ideas. In matter of days, I had no passion for those ideas that thrilled my spine just days ago. What happened ? I was fostering parallel thoughts of fear while dreaming to give fake comfort for the lack of desire and courage to take action. It was making “feel good” act of self sabotage. Soon, I realized that I had to change my thinking to change my life for the better. I was a whiner. The alchemy of my thoughts began to change my belief that to succeed, I shall never fail to act and let the universe provide courage to defeat my own fear.

The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
-Winston Churchill (1874-1965) British politician.

3. Are there lack of OR abundance of opportunities ?

I’ve had interesting conversation with few of my close friends in New Jersey few days ago. First friend had nothing but complaints about the world. “We’ve seen our best days,” or “I wanted to invest in rental properties, but it will be a while before I can take risk,” or “Stock market is about to crash with the worries of inflation” and so forth. I suppose you get the cue. He is a whiner. I hung up and few minutes later my phone rang. Hesitantly, I picked up the phone with all thoughts rushing my mind to avoid further destruction of my brain. To my relief, this was another friend who lived just few miles from the first caller. He called me to get advice on best ways to embark on his dream of real estate investment. “I believe that we can’t ask for any better time, Shilpan” he said. Why ? I was still in chaos. “Interest rates are low and prices are historically low as well. What’s your opinion?” Now he turned my dead brain around. He certainly is a winner.

4. They hate failures, OR they love failures.

This is a classic one. We all have fear of failure. This fear stems from the desire to be seen with respect in the eyes of others who have no interest whatsoever in our dreams. It’s a creature of self prophecy that harbors fake belief that to uplift our self esteem, we shall never falter in our endeavors. Thomas Edison once said that success is 90% perseverance and 10% genius. He failed 1000 times before inventing an electric bulb. He would have quit long before trying 1000 times if he cared for what others may think of his failures. He was a winner.

5. They are being managed by the time OR they manage the time.

Time truly has no value. I’ve heard from whiners that they do not have time for the exercise, or they do not have time to read or they do not have time to learn new skills. They forget that no one is selling time in free markets. It’s available in abundance as freely as air. What whiners complain about is their lack of focus and intention to allocate time for what they whine about. Winners on the other hand learn how to allocate time for what they consider priority in their lives.

The excess of our youth are checks written against our age and they are payable with interest thirty years later.
-Charles Caleb Colton (1780-1832) British clergyman, sportsman and author.


To Your Success,